Around Christmas time, her and I did a lot of shopping together. We were always together, and she had quickly become a very good friend of mine. As time went on, we just kept getting closer. She would take me with her to beauty supply stores, she had her cosmetology license, and we would always go to dinner and grab drinks. Around Valentines day, since her boyfriend was in another country, and mine had broken up with me for the millionth time, she asked me to be her valentine, and I accepted. We got each other silly gifts, and went to dinner like the lonely biddies we were.
Our friendship continued, and then I left my job, and that's when things started to get weird. Her and I remained friends, and she would constantly ask me to visit her at work and bring her Friendly's, and I didn't mind because we were friends, right? When I would show up at her job, the girls who once were my best friends, were so cold and unfriendly toward me, and I had NO idea why. I just figured we were drifting a part because I no longer worked there.
When it got warmer out, she would invite me to her family's beach house, and we would still chat all the time. I noticed all the girls I once hung out with were all going out together, and I wasn't included. I had no idea why. These girls used to always invite me out, and now they hadn't asked me anywhere. So, me being a brat, I posted on Facebook, when I had one, that I thought it was messed up what they were doing, never directly calling anyone out. I then got a nasty Facebook message from a girl I had worked with asking if I was talking about the group of girls, and I lied and said no, because she had confirmed for me that I had absolutely been kicked out of the group, and I had no idea why. Then, shortly after the Facebook message, one of my more loyal friends messaged me, and asked if the status I had made on Facebook was about the girl whom I had been friends with, and that's when the can of worms opened. I had found out that this girl, whom I thought this entire time was my friend, had been talking so much crap about me behind my back. She was telling these girls that I would just randomly visit her at work, which was NOT true, she would ask me to come because she was bored. She would tell them that she didn't even want to be my friend, and that we never hung out, which was another lie. She constantly had asked me to hang out, and I was always the one who was busy and couldn't.
Now, I'm wondering to myself why this person would just be so horrible to me. I had never been anything, but a good friend to her. I decided to text her, and I told her that I knew everything and I never wanted to speak to her again, and she didn't deny what she said, and she never apologized, and I ended the friendship right then and there. Unfortunately, I thought she deserved a taste of her own medicine, she was so good and talking behind my back, but couldn't say anything to my face, so I took to Facebook to teach her a lesson. I began calling her out on her lies, and made comments about how she wore pounds of make-up, and how all her hair is fake. She wore a ridiculous amount of extensions.
It took maybe a day or two, and she gave me what I wanted. Let me state, this girl did not have a Facebook, so that meant that someone was relaying the message, and let me tell you, that little snake got deleted and blocked from everything so fast. Anyway, she messaged me saying how she was so happy our friendship was over, bla bla bla, as though I was forcing her to be my friend or something. Sicko. What I should have spotted from the beginning is how she would constantly talk crap about all of the girls we worked with, but would smile in their faces. One girl was telling her personal business to this girl, and she immediately ran and told me, and other girls came to me telling me they had heard the news from her as well. She was so fake, and the snake I mentioned, well she used to call her an ugly slut allllllll the time, and then smile in her face, and to this day they are still friends!
Why she did this to me, I didn't understand, and then I realized, she was jealous of me. I had way more going for me than she ever did. My boyfriend lived in this country, and I was getting a college degree, and had way more opportunities available for me than she did. She may be successful now, and I wouldn't know, but I know she will only get so far in life because she will be asked to pay for the evil she has done to people, because I know I wasn't the only one. I just happen to be the one who found out about what she did. Since then I have forgiven her, because she is just really misguided. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. I was wrong for being immature and taking to Facebook, but I felt she needed to feel it on her end, and I won't take that back.
The lesson to take from this, and what I learned, is that if a person talks crap about EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEIR "BEST FRIENDS" they are absolutely talking about you too. It does not matter how close you are, or how often you hang out, or how often you talk, they are bashing you. Jealousy is a terrible disease, and unfortunately the ones closest to you may be the ones most jealous of you. Keep your eyes open, and if you feel something isn't adding up, maybe it's time to slowly distance yourself. Toxic people are all around, and you just have to be aware of who is real and who is fake. I know we all get annoyed with our friends, and we may walk away from them thinking to ourselves, "My goodness, you are just annoying me right now!", but that's totally natural. It's when you are hanging out with someone, hanging out with their family, and talking to them everyday, while you have no idea they are telling people your personal business and lying about you. It's unfortunate, but a lesson we all must go through in life, in some way or another. Learn who is true to you, and value their friendship they way you would want them to value yours.
Ask, Believe, Receive,
Julie Catherine
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